"Samahan mo naman ako sa CR," a young lady said.
"Tara na, kanina pa ako naghahanap ng kasama mag-CR," With sense of relief they walked side by side, not even knowing why they needed each other doing a simple personal thing. It has been an age-old enigma for me why does most of my female classmates go to comfort rooms in pairs, or even in a group. What do they gain from that, personally, it's illogical being asked "Uy, samahan mo naman ako mag-CR" and I don't gain anything from that aside from being like a stupid waiting for her to come out, just kidding, it is just awkward to wait for someone outside an occupied cubicle and besides, they won't be flushed nor they need someone to wipe their ass.
I think it was about two years ago that I thought of a hunch concerning this enigma, and I answered it with
"In my opinion, sa society natin ngayon we feel safer if we're on a large group.It lessens the chance to be assaulted."After two years, it still fits the logic and reason behind why I said it, it is saddening thinking that women are capable of being independent human yet we confine ourselves being the inferior one.
Emotional dependency, yes, no man is an island but why in a simple thing such as going to a comfort room needs to have "somebody else" in the said situation. The reason behind this might be alarming because it hides a bitter reality of those who ask for a favor of accompanying them to a personal happening.
Codependency.
That's it.
According to Mental Health America,
"Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. The disorder was first identified about ten years ago as the result of years of studying interpersonal relationships in families of alcoholics. Co-dependent behavior is learned by watching and imitating other family members who display this type of behavior."
In other words, they actively exhibit the after effects of their childhood or even what they are experiencing while their faces are turned away from you.
I read this somewhere that women are naturally dependent on their friends, family, or their special someone. Probably because our society taught us that women are weak, which we are not.
Scientific things aside, I will try to answer my age-old enigma.
Hmmm ..
Probably they had their monthly menstruation suddenly and they need someone to buy a napkin for them?
